All this political chatter about the "war on women" has got me thinking. If there is, in fact, a war on women, shouldn't I, as a women, feel attacked? Not literally, of course, but shouldn't I feel that my choices are, in some way, being questioned by the gender hierarchy (whoever they may be)? I ask because I don't feel relegated into a sub-segment of the sex. Looking at my life, and the choices I make, you would think I'd fit nicely into a tiny little divot along the gender spectrum. I typically don't feel like an outsider but when I look at the wider landscape of the country, maybe I should.
I don't view my decisions as controversial or outside of the norm. That being said, I homeschool my kids. I believe that our country was founded squarely upon Godly principles. I exercise my Second Amendment right. I believe I am the weaker vessel in my marriage...and I'm ok with that. It's this last idea that seems the most controversial especially in light of the "feminist movement."
While many women feel the need to be fiercely independent and vocally express their desire for "equality" on every level, I am reminded every day that I am not equal to my husband. Does that make me less valuable/intelligent/important? Of course not. We each have a role in our relationship, in our family, in our community and in our world. I am not designed to do his job, as he is not designed to do mine. As the "weaker" vessel, I trust my husband to be the head of our household. He's designed for that role. He demonstrates the strength to bear the weight of our struggles (no I'm not speaking in purely literal terms here) and the humility to treat me with patience and tenderness. Does this mean I am not strong or humble? No. But we are clearly designed differently...and complimentary.
In my view, embracing "feminism" means accepting my acceptance of my role in marriage. If I am going to feel attacked (in this war on women) on any level, I suppose this is the area where the spears would fly. Still, I don't feel it. I just can't imagine any argument or situation in which my mind would be changed. This isn't a principle given by man, but by God (very much like the rights named in our Founding Documents). So, does embracing my role as the weaker vessel make me....weak? Not at all. In fact, I am stronger in my faith and in my relationship because of it.